Cally Farr Counselling
M.A. Registered Clinical Counsellor
While divorce ends a marriage, it does not end a family
Divorce CoachingIf you are going through a separation or divorce, you may be finding that the stresses of separation and divorce can take a toll on the entire family. The coaching process provides a unique place for people to identify and understand feelings, values and needs; improve communication; reduce misunderstandings and blame; and develop effective co-parenting skills and on-going positive family interactions.
The Collaborative Family Law process is non-adversarial and client driven. We build a unique team for each couple. This team provides an envelope to contain and support the separation process, and to facilitate creative negotiation. Each person has their own coach and lawyer, who support their client, as well as the whole family.
Because the team is built for each couple, the team may vary for different families. There may be individual legal and coaching sessions, as well as 4 way meetings (both parties meet together with their two coaches or their two lawyers). A child specialist may be engaged to provide a voice for the children, and/or a financial advisor may be involved to look at the long term financial issues. The goal is a positive and respectful settlement of all issues, without going to court.
As a coach, my goal is to work with you to communicate and resolve conflicts effectively with your spouse or partner. I offer a combination of compassionate support and gentle challenge to help you move forward. We will find mutually workable solutions in a creative environment of respect, safety and support. In coaching sessions you will be part of a process that:
IACP (International Academy of Collaborative Professionals) at: www.collaborativepractice.com.
Information on legal issues, options and resources at: www.ag.gov.bc.ca/family-justice/index.htm
Families in Transition provides counselling, legal services and workshops in Victoria at: www.bcfit.org
During the separation process, parents are moving from a marriage to a co-parenting business partnership. Coaching can be helpful in developing a co-parenting plan. Creating a co-parenting plan that works is an important tool for ensuring the health and well being of your children. The plan details how the parents will handle activities of daily living and caring for their children.
know that children benefit
most when parents get along. A workable agreement that everyone can
rely on to divide responsibilities can actually reduce stress between
family members. Because
parenting plan is a living document that evolves with the
changes of your
growing children, it is usually revisited
regularly to make sure it meets your family's needs.
Successful co-parenting can
be achieved . Research shows that children grow and thrive when their
parents maintain and model a positive relationship, working together in
a supportive parenting alliance.
Successful co-parenting can be achieved . Research shows that children grow and thrive when their parents maintain and model a positive relationship, working together in a supportive parenting alliance.
Research also suggests
that the following tips can be useful in developing a positive
Research also suggests that the following tips can be useful in developing a positive parenting alliance...
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